3 Questions to Replace New Year Resolutions

3 Questions to Replace New Year Resolutions 3 Year Ago · 5 min read

Talyaa Vardar

Talyaa Vardar, MA, FCPC, MCC
Executive Coach, Psychologist & Art Therapist

As the new year arrives the typical questions concerning new year resolutions come up. “What do you want to change in the new year? What do you want to focus in the new year? What is your new year resolution?” These questions might come as very overwhelming. It necessarily doesn’t have to be this way.

Only 8% of New Year’s resolutions are ever being met. Therefore, its time to have a new approach. Rather than creating big goals its better to choose a different set of choices that improve your lifestyle and state of mind. Its about simplifying your approach to life.

When you simplify, you give importance to things that are meaningful and eliminate what’s draining your energy. You start to say no to things that are not useful to you and yes to things that make you happy. When you start living your life on your own terms it becomes more fulfilling.

To get you started on this path here the three important questions to start your year in the right vibe.

  1. What are the three things you like doing and want to do more of?

Hiking? Travelling? Finding a good read? Cooking your favourite food?

It is a simple but a powerful question. Its even better to write the answer down, this way you acknowledge the things you enjoy and commit to do more of them. You can even schedule them and mark them in your calendar.

  1. What are three things you want to evolve in?

Evolve can mean a lot of things here. It could be improving a skill, getting better at something or exploring a new hobby. Actively put yourself in positions that triggers growth and it will make your life better, making you happier.

  1. What are the three things you want to reduce doing?

Stressing? Putting yourself down? Binge-eating? Being hard on yourself?

Believe that you can do less of what you dislike. You can quit it altogether if you wish. It could be an unwanted habit, a thought pattern, an activity which is draining you or something that you can delegate to someone else. Look for ways to do something differently if you can not delegate it. Life is too short to be spent doing something you dislike.

These questions should help you to develop a clear viewpoint and approach your year with a refreshing perspective that is more positive and empowering that fixing resolutions or goals. These intentions remind you what matters to you most and you can use these throughout the year to make sure you are on the right track for a happier, more fulfilling life.

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