6 Ways to Use Silence as a Tool in Coaching

6 Ways to Use Silence as a Tool in Coaching

Talyaa Vardar, MA, FCPC, MCC
Talyaa Vardar, MA, FCPC, MCC
Executive Coach, Psychologist & Art Therapist

6 Ways to Use Silence as a Tool in Coaching

Silence is one of the great tools to use to enhance a professional coaching session. It adds that magical touch which helps clients get to solutions and achieve the goal of the coaching session. It is a good idea to make effective use of silence at the right times during the conversation in a professional coaching setting. Misuse of it may create awkward situations, in order to avoid those, we have created some ways in this article to make correct use of it.

Following are the 6 ways to use silence as a tool in a professional coaching setting:

  1. Remain silent:

One of the ways to use silence is to ask an attention-grabbing question and remain silent. The silence prompts the speaker to ponder, react and answer.

  1. Use pauses:

People have the tendency to think faster when they talk that’s why its useful to make use of pauses at the right time during a coaching session to uncover more insights from the client.

  1. Slow your pace:

Before making correct use of silence it is useful to pace yourself. Its best to match the pace of your client but sometimes a slower pace can be more helpful.

  1. Practice acknowledgement:

Showing a gesture of acknowledgment is very effective after a pause so that the client can be sure that you are all ears and listening closely.

  1. Ask once:

When the client is taking his time to answer resist the temptation to reframe the question, let the client hear the question, process it, take his time and then answer before you speak. If you’ve asked the right question, believe that it doesn’t need editing.

  1. Make use of visualization:

Invite your client to walk through a visualization with you. Make sure at the some point you remain silent so that your client can let their imagination run. Encourage them to take their time devouring the silence and visualizing.

These are 6 ways to add silence to your coaching session to help dig out more useful insights from your client. It is one of the ways of “communicating effectively” as ICF’s Core Competencies mention.


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