Most of the self-sabotage originates from dysfunctional and irrational thinking that we develop while growing up. We are all made up of thoughts, feelings, behaviours and habits As we are all aware that our thoughts can upset us, certain types of thoughts can also create negative feelings. I will continue to share a controversial fact with you. It might help you to realize that the thoughts that make you feel bad are often irrational or dysfunctional, and a lot of times you subconsciously keep producing them. These thoughts are not there to serve you anymore, moreover they are the masters of self sabotage. Not only do these thoughts prevent you from seeing the world with an objective in your mind and with neutral eyes, it rather distorts your view of the World and realities of your life.
So, let’s reflect back: Most self sabotage such as underestimating yourself, perfectionism, hopelessness, and low confidence are often caused by dysfunctional thoughts. When you gain awareness of what your dysfunctional thoughts are and how they are affecting you, then you can draw a line to avoid sabotaging yourself and experience a sense of progress.
Nine (9) Dysfunctional Thoughts That Help You Master Self Sabotage
- “Either/Or” Thinking: You see things in black or white, 10-0 categories.
- Pressured Thinking: Often you think you “should”, “must”, “have to” be in a certain way or not; do certain things or not.
- Underestimating Your Achievements: You keep underestimating your wins and rather focus on challenges and negatives in life.
- Ignoring the Positives: You have a tendency or lack of awareness of counting the positives.
- Jumping to Conclusions: You have not developed a healthy curiosity or patience to wait for, listen to and understand the big picture. Somehow you believe that you read people’s minds or already know all the answers!
- Like or Dislike Thinking: You reason from whether you like or dislike.
- Labeling: You categorize yourself and others as losers, jerks, etc.
- Overgeneralization: You view a negative event as an infinite pattern of defeat.
- Blame: You blame yourself and often feel guilty for things that are not under your control, or you aren’t responsible for.