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5 Ways A Certified Coach Can Help You Transform Your Life

At some point in your life, you would have had someone in your life coach you and mentor you through some hard and difficult moments in your life. When you were younger, that person might have been your parents and when you go to school, it would be your teachers. 

But, somehow, this kinda stops when you grow up. Why is that? 

When you get older, why should you stop having that one person who is there to help, coach, and mentor you through your life? This is why we believe that coaches are incredibly important for you to thrive in life. An ICF-certified coach will greatly help you plan out your life, help you figure out which parts of it you want to focus and grow and what parts you would like to work on and improve. 

Certified coaches can help you achieve your fullest potential in areas like your business, career, personal life, financial life, and just life in general. They are known to be masterful when it comes to achieving life goals as they are there to help ground you and walk alongside you to achieve your goals and wants in life. 

Here at Flow Coaching Institute, we have worked with thousands of students and we have helped change and transform those lives for the better. With that first-hand experience, we have also continuously improved our coaching programs to put forth the best-certified coaches out there. Our alumni are known to be some of the best-certified coaches out there because of our direct feedback loops and our dedication to making the world a better place from coaching. 

So, how does a certified coach help you transform your life? 

Certified Coaches Help You Identify Your Blockers & Problems 

Certified coaches are there to help you dig deep into your roots and find the causes of your main blockers and problems. These issues are usually the ones that are stopping you or holding you back from reaching your best potential. 

Determining your issues is hard and confusing especially if you haven’t done that practice before. An experienced certified coach will be able to assist you with a better understanding of yourself, your ideas, your blockers, issues, and roadblocks. By working with a certified coach and by identifying these blockers, you will be able to stop holding back and move forward with the changes that you wanted to see in yourself. 

Certified Coaches Will Help You Focus 

Everything is moving at 100 miles an hour today, with the internet, everyone working from home and just how easy it is for us to get information, it can get overwhelming. There are always going to be a hundred things that you want to get done and that are important and urgent. But, with a certified coach by your side, they would have worked with you to find out what your blockers are, and then with that, they can create a path of focus for you. This path will help you focus on what it is you want to work on. 

Focusing on these little steps is the main way to help you reach your goals. Without focus, nothing really changes and this is where a certified coach can help you. 

Certified Coaches Create Your Goals With You 

Once you’ve figured out your main blockers and roadblocks and you’ve honed in on your focus areas, another great benefit of having a certified coach by your side is that they will work with you to curate your goals. 

The reason why having a certified coach by your side is so that you can make sense of all the work you want to get done with yourself. After identifying your issues, blockers, and what you want to focus on, that is only half the work. The other half is putting that on paper and actually creating a plan to help you reach those goals. 

Certified coaches are your lighthouses, you can go and explore and try new things but they will always be there to guide you back to where you need to be to achieve your goals. 

Certified Coaches Boost Your Confidence 

How does it feel when you have someone on your side, supporting you through it all? It feels extremely rewarding, doesn’t it? It also gives you that confidence boost in knowing that someone is in your corner at all times. A certified coach will help you see your worth, your strengths, how to leverage your weaknesses, and also ensure that you realize that you deserve the best things in life. 

Certified coaches will also make sure that you are empowered and fueled to get what you truly deserve in your life as well. That overall confidence boost is critical in ensuring that you really change your life for the better. 

Certified Coaches Are There To Hold You Accountable 

Have you ever been a victim of the new year’s resolution issue that happens every year? Where everyone is super pumped to change their lives and they create this list of resolutions that get forgotten after a month? Well, having a certified coach will help you curb that. 

Regardless of your goals, they are there to make sure that you are accountable to yourself, and that you are constantly working on improving yourself and making your life a better one every day. They are there motivating you and picking you up when you are down. 

At the end of the day, a certified coach whether it’s for your career, your business, or even your personal life is someone that you need in your corner if you are seriously thinking about changing things in your life. They are there to give you that extra push, to mentor you, and to be there for you when things seem like they have hit a plateau or a brick wall. 

If you have a personal coach, let us know what makes them so special? We would love to hear about your experience as well!  

And if you are looking to become a coach, head on over to our schedule page to see if there are any upcoming programs that you would like to join us for. We can't wait to see you!

 

 

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Coaching
FLOW For Women: Female Empowerment with FLOW Coaching Institute

Here at FLOW Coaching Institute, we choose to celebrate women every single day. Women are incredibly powerful and without women, the world would be a sad and boring place. This is why, whenever we are asked to do any CSR (Corporate Social Responsibility) activities for women, we say yes almost immediately all the time.

In this article, we wanted to take some time to showcase some of the awesome things we've been doing for the community of women around us. As women, we need to ensure that we help each other constantly and whenever we can.

Women are still being oppressed in 3rd world countries and even in places like Canada and the United States. No woman will ever be able to say that they haven't been looked down upon or made fun of in their entire life. This is just the reality for a lot of women across the globe. This is why we need to be able to ensure that we help women wherever we can.

So here are a couple of the fun things we did in 2020 for all our amazing women.

#1: The MentorSHE Program

In Partnership with WSTEMTO to offer to coach to women in STEM 

This was my first post last year to commemorate the launch of the MentorSHE meeting.

We realized that there were so many amazing women in STEM that are extremely smart and talented. That is why it was such an easy decision to make when we were asked to partner up with WSTEMTO to help women in STEM with our coaching and leadership sessions.

Our first round was extremely successful.

These were the results we got for the first cohort! We are so proud and happy to see these numbers from all participants and it makes our hearts sing.

Our next cohort starts in March and we cannot wait to see how that goes then!

#2: The Kizlar Sahada Program 

Last year, COVID stopped the world in its tracks. A lot of us were forced into isolation, people lost jobs, families were forced apart and people lost jobs. As a team, we knew that we had an arsenal of great coaches, and the ability to give back.

We are so proud to share another snippet from our girls from the Kizlar Sahada Project in Turkey. We trained and coached a group of amazing girls that were part of a local soccer team.

Here is one of the testimonials for one of the girls we coached.

Our coaches focused on:

- Building their confidence
- Empowering them for the future
- Teaching them how to curate goals for themselves
- Creating a positive environment for them to truly be themselves

We are so proud and humbled to be a part of their journey.

What do you do to give back to your community? Is there any way you think we can help. Leave us a comment or email us at info@flowcoachinginstitute.com to share or learn more about these programs. We would love to hear from you.

 

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Coaching
7 Key Business Coaching Questions to Coach Start-ups

In business coaching it is important that the business coach is capable of coaching the entrepreneur or executive through 9 pillars of business planning. Every business owner should be able to answer these key business planning questions.Whether the coach has a business background or not it is important that he/she gets himself well acquianted with these aspects of business coaching.

So if you are a business coach or wanting to become one, create a template for your coaching process with these 9 pillars and related coaching questions below:

  1. Value proposition
    • What is the business? What value does one get by using your service/product?
    • How would you describe value proposition for the business?
  1. Customer segmentation
    • Who is the target audience? What segment (B2B, B2C, …)?
    • How would you describe customers/clients?
  1. Channels:
  • How are you planning to reach out to your clients?
  • What kind of sales and marketing strategy do you need?
  1. Revenue streams:
  • What are some potential revenue streams for the business/for you?
  1. Key resources:
  • What do you have or know?
  • What other resources do you need to develop/acquire? (techonology, people, talent, skills, know how, raw material, money, investment funding…)
  1. Key partners/stakeholders/talent:
  • What type of support do you need?
  • Who can help you? What kind of talent do you need?
  1. Cost structure:
  • What are the costs: operating costs and fixed coasts?
  • How will you manage your costs? What do you need to reduce/ stop/increase?

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Coaching
Create a Happier Life With 4 Principles of Positive Psychology

Using the principles of positive psychology to recognise your full potential in all areas of your life can transform you in to a happier person.

Why do you think some people are happier than others? The answer is hidden in the way they think, hence within their established habitual thinking and perception.  Habits can change, so can people. Positive psychology is an area of study showing us the way to turn ourselves into happier individuals. It is not rocket science, but it is science.

Acknowledging pleasure and enjoyment

One route to happiness is through experience of pleasure. Pleasure is acknowledgment of satisfying our basic needs such as hunger, thirst, sexual drives and physical comfort. Importance of acknowlodging the pleasure of satisfying for example our bodily functions was first mentioned in the book Utopia by Thomas More.

Achieving flow in the routines of daily life

Unless you are an adrenaline junkie running from one adventure to another, for majority, life is a routine cycle. Most people have a regular cycle of going to the same job or school. Therefore it is important that we develop a feeling of contentment in the present while working towards gratification that is meaningful to us through our jobs, homeworks or hobbies. That gratification will give you a sense of meaning and intention that is worth of seeking.

Recognising positive traits

Positive Psychology gurus Dr Martin Seligman and Christopher Peterson set out to describe and classify human strengths and virtues that help people to thrive. Six virtues emerged that seemed to be recognised and respected by every culture in the World:

  • Wisdom and knowledge
  • Courage
  • Love and compassion (or humanity)
  • Justice
  • Temperance
  • Transcendence

Building and maintaining positive relationships

Both positive psychology and abnormal psychology research show us that having a community and support system are the remedies of anxiety and depression. Investing time and energy in building and maintaining positive relationships are definitely very effective ROIs for your gross happiness.

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Coaching
What Does A Business Coach Do?

Business coaches serve as motivation and success partners, coaching you in the skills you need to be successful in your business and serving as a source of information should you ever have any questions about what you should do.

Much like any other coach, business coaches work to help you define SMART business goals that are specific and achievable, help you to define a game plan, refine your talents, support your decisions, help with stress and resilience to ensure that you and your business are successful.

Business coaches start by a needs analysis to understand the gap between where you and your business are and where you can and should be. They might also start by learning about your brand, business and company, from its value propositions to its target customers to the challenges it will face and beyond. Once your business coach has learned everything that they can about your offerings and systems, they’ll next want to learn more about your vision for your company and the goals that you have for it. Business coach will need to know whether you are planning to turn your business into a livable income for you and your family or a multi-million dollar corporation and/or planning an exit in the future.

Next, a business coach will work with you to set attainable goals for you, your business and your team if exists. Once a set of goals are in place, your business coach is there to help you meet them, aiding you in devising a set of strategies and action plans designed to push your business to meet desired results and coaching you navigate any challenges that come up or might come up along the way.

At FLOW Business Coaching Certification program, our business coaches are trained specifically in coaching through business analysis methodologies such as SWOT, Gap Analysis, Three Pillars of Strategic Creativity and many more. Therefore they will know how to approach your case and what to offer that will ensure that the best approach is in place for you and your business.

If you want to become a certified business coach through ICF (International Coach Federation) you can check our online business coach training information page here: https://flowcoachinginstitute.com/courses

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Coaching
Why is Coaching Presence Important?

If you ask any master coach what is one of the most essential things to bring to coaching they will say its Coaching Presence.

One of ICFs Core Competencies is Coaching Presence and they define it as an "Ability to be fully conscious and create spontaneous relationship with the client, employing a style that is open, flexible and confident", Not all coaches pay attention to having a strong coaching presence.

Research defines presence as being present in the now, no distractions of the past or the future exists and no distractions by one’s own personal needs. High awareness, curiosity about the next moment and a state of flow exists. Coaching presence is a state which we experience from time to time but it can be difficult to achieve by trying knowingly.

Coaching presence is highly likely to transfer from a person. If the coach is present it makes it easier for the client to be present as well. This kind of synergy encourages creativity, self-awareness and confidence. This helps find solutions and acting upon them becomes easy which is essentially what ones wants to achieve through coaching.

What Can You Do to Achieve Coaching Presence? 

Practicing mindfulness and meditation daily can help your brain recenter and experience flow without thinking. Yoga and other meditative practices also help you gain presence of mind and body. A few deep breathes are your first start.

Additionally, self care and meeting your own needs first will help boost yourself and help you be more present. Along with this an effective coach training from an established coaching school, observation of coaching demonstrations, peer coaching, practicing your own coaching, mentoring, supervision and gaining feedback from clients as well as supervision & feedback from experienced mentor coaches will eventually get you where you want to be and you will be able to achieve a concrete coaching presence on your own. This will lead you to asking right questions at the right times and have satisfactory coaching outcomes.

If you’re looking for a program to enroll check out our course program schedule to find one that suits you the best.

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Coaching
5 Tips for New Coaches

5 Tips for New Coaches

Starting a new business is full of ups and downs, same goes for a coaching business. During the first years coaches may feel lost and therefore we developed a draft on what are the few things to do when starting out your coaching practice. 

5 tips for new coaches:

  1. Get Certified:

There are still some old-school discussions or whether you should get certified or not. The answer is always yes, of course you should! Coaching certification helps you make smarter decisions, helps you become successful quicker and makes it less likely for you to quit in the future. Hence always choose to get your certification first before you move ahead. 

  1. Use A Business Email Address:

Make sure you develop a business email address for your use rather than your personal one or even worst, a fancy one like missbeautiful@gmail.com or tomandjerry@hotmail.com. Make sure you look and sound professional when kickstarting your coaching business. 

  1. Launch A Website/Social Media Page:

If you have a professional looking email address your next step is a professional looking website, but it can wait if you are not ready. Try to get your name in some of the coaching directories or create a professional social media page while you are working on it. Get to know your niche, your business, your clients and translate that into your website. 

  1. Find the Right Time to Change Tracks:

Find the right time to quit your fulltime job, doing so very early or very late both can have a negative impact. Coachestake about 3 months to 5 years to have a full-fledged coaching practice so it can be hard to go on a long time without a full-time income. On the contrary don’t be too late and don’t feel stuck with your job once you have a thriving coaching practice. Some people might find it hard to take the leap of faith. Therefore, find the right time to do it. 

  1. Get Your Own Coach:

Everybody needs a coach. Don’t forget to get a coach for yourself you can help you become the best version of yourself with time. It can be hard to look at your own mistakes and weak areas and a professional coach can help you with it. 

To get your online coaching certification with us check out our program schedule and sign up for your preferred course now.

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Coaching
12 self-care tips for Highly Sensitive Coaches

There is a trait of people known as the Empath or a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). These types of people are commonly found also as coaches.

Research suggests that 15-20% of all humans are born as a Highly Sensitive Person. There is a need for HSPs specially as coaches since they are more empathic, emotional, easy to sense when something is off and process information more intensely. Highly Sensitive Persons are in essence, sensitive and everything impacts them strongly whether positive or negative. All of this however, can bring exhaustion and burnout. It is both a blessing and a curse to be a Highly Sensitive Person as a coach.

As coaches are an active advocate of positive psychology, their self-care should be a priority. Many of the traits that ICF demands in a Master Certified Coach (MCC) comes naturally to HSPs. Such as deep connection and awareness, coaching presence, empathy, deep listening, intuition and so on.

12 self-care tips for HSP Coaches.

  1. Getting a full night’s sleep. Resting tops one of the most essential self-care things to do list if you are a Highly Sensitive Coach.
  2. Take some me-time. It is important to be alone for some part of the day so you can be yourself when you are coaching others.
  3. Set boundaries. Let yourself know where to draw the line, most often Highly Sensitive Coaches forget to do this.
  4. Have an optimum amount of clientele. Don’t burnout yourself. To put your best foot forward limit your coaching to about 10-20 hours per week.
  5. Have a coach of your own to work out and develop your own best practices.
  6. Practice mindfulness and meditation to help you stay centered and present.
  7. Select your potential clients to avoid working with the clients that might prove difficult to your own self.
  8. Consider having HSPs client who desperately look for coaches who can understand them.
  9. Modify your office space in a way where you work around your sensitivities. The less you have to put up with, the more you can give to your clients.
  10. Create a sales and marketing process that banks on your HSP nature. It can play in your favour and you don’t have to pretend to be someone you are not.
  11. Accept and embrace your sensitive and appreciate that you have found the suitable profession for you.
  12. Self-compassion and empathy for yourself can help you appreciate yourself and your clients.

If you are interested in becoming a coach check our upcoming program schedule and get yourself enrolled in a coaching program that is based on Solution-focused Positive Psychology.

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Coaching
Authentic Coach Presence is a Sum of 6 Character Virtues

Professional coaches are educated change agents. Catalysts. World shifters.

Becoming a coach takes a lot of qualities, which starts with the character.  A character that is;

  • humane,
  • objective,
  • compassionate,
  • non-judgmental,
  • patient,
  • open minded.

All of these character qualities are related to each other. If we look from a systemic perspective, becoming a good coach is truly like becoming a Sufi master since one of the most important virtues of a coach’s character is objectivity and being non-judgmental. For a coach to practice such neutral presence takes a lot of patience and compassion.

Jumping into conclusions without listening with a neutral mental state will damage your coaching presence. Coaches who jump into conclusions when things do not develop as they expect them to- will not be able to support their clients to their maximum potential. Most of the time, people with problem orientation habits have a tendency to hurry in their conclusions. Instead start with inquiring first to understand the reality. Beware that reality has many layers and your perception of reality is based on your habitual perception filters- so it might not be right. Do not limit this practice with only  your coaching sessions, but turn it into a habit-part of your character.

Keeping an open mind with an understanding that things may not be what they are as they look like. Therefore, investing in developing a neutral/objective mindset is a smart thing to do. According to our research, it takes at least three months and 20 different coaching conversations to develop such a neutral mind.

Unlearn what you have learnt about people.

Approach situations and people with an authentic curiosity and ask yourself: Who am I hearing? My inner habitual filter or the other person’s words. Each time you notice that you hear yourself more, remind yourself to come back with a neutral, non-judgmental mindset and listen again.

It will take a while, but eventually you will get that neutral space. Remembering Rumi’s poem will help you to come back to your core (while moving away from your ego) in developing your authentic coach presence:

“Come, come, whoever you are,
wanderer, worshiper, lover of leaving,
it doesn't matter.
Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Come, even if you have broken your vow a hundred times.
Come, come again, come.”

― Rumi

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Rapport-building for Transformational Coaching Conversations

Rapport originates from the Greek word “rappoarte” which means “to carry back to another person’s experience of themselves” Coaching conversations that transform are the ones in which the coach and the client become aligned and purposeful. In transformational conversations we express our inner truth and feelings and support others in doing the same. Rapport holds the essence of these conversations. 

People are attracted to people who are similar to them:

As a coach, building rapport means being open to understanding or experiencing another person’s view of the world as if you are experiencing it like the person itself. If you knew what the other person knows, if you had experienced what the other person had experienced, you would be able to enter naturally the client’s physical and tonal habits to the view the world in a new light. Through strong communication it is possible to build a rapport through understanding and respecting other persons view of the world. The key is to find common grounds. This leads to a successful coaching conversation by asking powerful questions as a coach and by active listening with curiosity. 

Your emotional brain loves similarities. It feels safe and most comfortable when communicating with people who are like you. As a coach you can encourage a person’s emotional brain to open up and carry a transformational conversation by using basic skills of rapport. You can build a sense of shared value so the client can step into a coaching relationship with you. 

Interested in becoming a coach? Discover Solution-Focused coaching skills which enable you to create transformational change in yourself and others. Learn about FLOW Coaching Methodology

Finding Common Ground Leads to Positive Results:

The use of behavioral and tonal matching develops strong physical rapport. With the help of behavioural matching you can mirror a part of person’s behaviour. For example in a face-to-face conversation you might want to sit in the same posture as the client. When the person shifts positions, you may want to follow gracefully. This is a form of respect and helps the client open up to you.

The strongest rapport is created when we value person’s core values. We become strong listeners when we actively listen and repeat peoples value words to them, words that hold true meaning and importance. On a personal level, you do not need to agree, but for transformational communication, it is important to respect where the other person is coming from. 

Rapport building does not mean that you want to copy or mimic the persons behavior, if you do this they might feel like you are mocking them and breaks the rapport. Rapport is when we quietly track a person’s behavior and begin discrete sharing of the experience. Being “like them” is the doorway into sharing experience.

An Exercise for Coaches to Build Rapport:

One of the best exercises for rapport building to get in sync with the client. Try to match your breathing with your client until you get a sense of his rhythm. If the person seems distracted or disjointed you can slowly deepen you breathing and notice that the client will do so too. Usually, a person will do so, unconsciously responding to you. This will enhance contact and will also assist the person to touch deeper levels of awareness. If you relax, the person will relax, too. He will particularly appreciate you after this type of relaxation, although he may not consciously recognize what you have done.

In the absence of rapport, an effective coaching conversation is unlikely to take place. Take time to recognize your own authentic values and move on to approach the client with the understanding and acceptance of who they are. If a person feels safe and understood they open up to deeper realms. When you have integrity using a rapport-building approach, the person will see, hear, and feel it, and this makes a powerful difference in the transformative possibility of the conversation.

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