Break the cycle... How many times have you heard that in your life? We are all told to break the status quo but do we all have what it takes? A lot of people go their entire lives without making this change and without breaking the cycle. Only because it's easier to just do what we're used to as opposed to changing the way we look at things.
This also happens a lot in businesses. A lot of companies never go past a certain point because they are not looking to improve or change things because of fear and not having the right people there to help them get past it.
Why Do People Seem Fixated on Failure
Why do some people have consistent success while others miss out? Many institutions and directors seek the answer to this question.
If the person in question has no pathological conditions, or if the characteristic tendencies of the person do not prevent success in his/her performance (a combination of the wrong person and the wrong job), then coaching and mentoring are beneficial in up to seventy-five percent of cases.
However, sometimes there is a circumstance where you try everything you know how to help the person, but something is just off and it just doesn’t work. As a coach, you will feel bad and you will wonder why, but the answer rests within your client. Someone who is unable to carry the burden of responsibilities will miss an opportunity to grow – especially if s/he is constantly looking for someone else to blame.
In fact, an opportunity for success will be missed. If you observe people like this for any length of time, you will see a cycle where there is a tendency to self-sabotage by denying themselves and their actions. Instead of carrying the burden of their own responsibilities, these people regularly blame others or the circumstances surrounding them.
They need others to be wrong in order to be able to reassure themselves, even if just a little, because accepting the problem or mistake requires growth, and that growth needs courage and strength.
Man is born alone - he comes into this world on his own and leaves on his own. This is actually power, but only a few people possess the level of awareness that will allow them to face up to this truth.
People who regularly sabotage themselves avoid facing existential loneliness. When someone faces it once, “understanding” happens. Subsequently, understanding necessitates choice; they are either going to be strong or they are going to admit that they are knowingly sabotaging themselves. However, then it will no longer be possible to blame others or the circumstances. The easiest thing for such people is denial and avoidance – until the next sabotage. Unless these people break free of this cycle of blame and denial, they will be doomed to the repeated failure over and over again.
So What Do We Do?
At the end of the day, as a coach, there is only so much you can do. If you have tried your best and the client still seems like there is no movement from their end -- it usually suggests that they are not ready yet to change. And you can never change someone who is not ready and willing to change. If you try to you will just hit a brick wall.
Just be there and support them as much as you can and show them what change and success can look like if they choose to walk alongside you on that path. If not -- there isn't much more that can be done.
Have you ever been in a situation like this? How did you handle it?
If you are looking to become a coach to help people like these around you, check out our program schedule here to join us on this amazing journey of learning to coach the whole person.
Professional coaching is a very growing industry at the moment. It is pursued by people who want to create an impact in the lives of other people by helping them go beyond their potential. Especially in 2021 when the world has changed as we know it and a lot of people are in need of guidance and support in their lives.
The coaching profession has exploded over the past 2 years because of just how fast the world is evolving and the emphasis being put on personal growth and improvements in yourself. Coaching has turned into an extremely lucrative business and career today.
The number of professional coaches in the world is growing rapidly and there is a growing demand for new professional coaches in different areas of life such as life coach, career coach, parenting coach, spiritual coach, business coach, and so on. People are getting more and more interested in getting certified as professional coaches.
The coaching industry is full of new opportunities as people are tired of routine and monotonous jobs and are looking to do something different and meaningful. If you find happiness in supporting others and helping them achieve their goals by aiding their thinking process you should think about becoming a coach. Here are some steps to become a certified professional coach.
Before you take the first step. Discover yourself and your ambitions before beginning. Are you interested in helping other people? Do you have the resources to sustain a coaching business? What can you do for people who are looking for coaches?
Many potential coaches start by getting coaches by themselves, this helps them get more knowledge about the process and the profession. You can start by searching ICF-certified coaches in your area and get in touch with them. ICF-certified coaches are not only very skilled but also abide by the professional standards of coaching.
Once you have made a decision to become a professional coach search for a reputable coaching school that has programs accredited by the International Coach Federation and enroll yourself. Being certified will not only increase your credibility but also create your reputation in the market. Make sure the school’s values align with the ICF and it emphasizes implementing ICF Core competencies and code of ethics.
FLOW Coaching Institute has online coach certification programs accredited from the ICF and has a basis of programs on the FLOW Coaching Method and Positive Psychology. You can choose to enroll in one of our programs.
Once you have completed at least 60 hours of coach-specific training that meets ICF standards you can consider completing other requirements for ICF credentialing such as ACC, MCC, and PCC.
ICF Global Coaching Study 2016 says seventy-seven percent of coach practitioners agree that clients expect them to be certified or credentialed.
To earn an ICF Credential, an individual must complete at least 60 hours of coach-specific training, attain 10 hours of mentor coaching, gain a designated number of coaching experience hours and demonstrate an appropriate level of skill in applying core coaching competencies. Applications are made directly to ICF.
To gain your coach-specific training and mentoring hours you can enroll in one of our programs or get in touch at firstname.lastname@example.org
At some point in your life, you would have had someone in your life coach you and mentor you through some hard and difficult moments in your life. When you were younger, that person might have been your parents and when you go to school, it would be your teachers.
But, somehow, this kinda stops when you grow up. Why is that?
When you get older, why should you stop having that one person who is there to help, coach, and mentor you through your life? This is why we believe that coaches are incredibly important for you to thrive in life. An ICF-certified coach will greatly help you plan out your life, help you figure out which parts of it you want to focus and grow and what parts you would like to work on and improve.
Certified coaches can help you achieve your fullest potential in areas like your business, career, personal life, financial life, and just life in general. They are known to be masterful when it comes to achieving life goals as they are there to help ground you and walk alongside you to achieve your goals and wants in life.
Here at Flow Coaching Institute, we have worked with thousands of students and we have helped change and transform those lives for the better. With that first-hand experience, we have also continuously improved our coaching programs to put forth the best-certified coaches out there. Our alumni are known to be some of the best-certified coaches out there because of our direct feedback loops and our dedication to making the world a better place from coaching.
So, how does a certified coach help you transform your life?
Certified coaches are there to help you dig deep into your roots and find the causes of your main blockers and problems. These issues are usually the ones that are stopping you or holding you back from reaching your best potential.
Determining your issues is hard and confusing especially if you haven’t done that practice before. An experienced certified coach will be able to assist you with a better understanding of yourself, your ideas, your blockers, issues, and roadblocks. By working with a certified coach and by identifying these blockers, you will be able to stop holding back and move forward with the changes that you wanted to see in yourself.
Everything is moving at 100 miles an hour today, with the internet, everyone working from home and just how easy it is for us to get information, it can get overwhelming. There are always going to be a hundred things that you want to get done and that are important and urgent. But, with a certified coach by your side, they would have worked with you to find out what your blockers are, and then with that, they can create a path of focus for you. This path will help you focus on what it is you want to work on.
Focusing on these little steps is the main way to help you reach your goals. Without focus, nothing really changes and this is where a certified coach can help you.
Once you’ve figured out your main blockers and roadblocks and you’ve honed in on your focus areas, another great benefit of having a certified coach by your side is that they will work with you to curate your goals.
The reason why having a certified coach by your side is so that you can make sense of all the work you want to get done with yourself. After identifying your issues, blockers, and what you want to focus on, that is only half the work. The other half is putting that on paper and actually creating a plan to help you reach those goals.
Certified coaches are your lighthouses, you can go and explore and try new things but they will always be there to guide you back to where you need to be to achieve your goals.
How does it feel when you have someone on your side, supporting you through it all? It feels extremely rewarding, doesn’t it? It also gives you that confidence boost in knowing that someone is in your corner at all times. A certified coach will help you see your worth, your strengths, how to leverage your weaknesses, and also ensure that you realize that you deserve the best things in life.
Certified coaches will also make sure that you are empowered and fueled to get what you truly deserve in your life as well. That overall confidence boost is critical in ensuring that you really change your life for the better.
Have you ever been a victim of the new year’s resolution issue that happens every year? Where everyone is super pumped to change their lives and they create this list of resolutions that get forgotten after a month? Well, having a certified coach will help you curb that.
Regardless of your goals, they are there to make sure that you are accountable to yourself, and that you are constantly working on improving yourself and making your life a better one every day. They are there motivating you and picking you up when you are down.
At the end of the day, a certified coach whether it’s for your career, your business, or even your personal life is someone that you need in your corner if you are seriously thinking about changing things in your life. They are there to give you that extra push, to mentor you, and to be there for you when things seem like they have hit a plateau or a brick wall.
If you have a personal coach, let us know what makes them so special? We would love to hear about your experience as well!
And if you are looking to become a coach, head on over to our schedule page to see if there are any upcoming programs that you would like to join us for. We can't wait to see you!
Here at FLOW Coaching Institute, we choose to celebrate women every single day. Women are incredibly powerful and without women, the world would be a sad and boring place. This is why, whenever we are asked to do any CSR (Corporate Social Responsibility) activities for women, we say yes almost immediately all the time.
In this article, we wanted to take some time to showcase some of the awesome things we've been doing for the community of women around us. As women, we need to ensure that we help each other constantly and whenever we can.
Women are still being oppressed in 3rd world countries and even in places like Canada and the United States. No woman will ever be able to say that they haven't been looked down upon or made fun of in their entire life. This is just the reality for a lot of women across the globe. This is why we need to be able to ensure that we help women wherever we can.
So here are a couple of the fun things we did in 2020 for all our amazing women.
In Partnership with WSTEMTO to offer to coach to women in STEM
This was my first post last year to commemorate the launch of the MentorSHE meeting.
We realized that there were so many amazing women in STEM that are extremely smart and talented. That is why it was such an easy decision to make when we were asked to partner up with WSTEMTO to help women in STEM with our coaching and leadership sessions.
Our first round was extremely successful.
These were the results we got for the first cohort! We are so proud and happy to see these numbers from all participants and it makes our hearts sing.
Our next cohort starts in March and we cannot wait to see how that goes then!
Last year, COVID stopped the world in its tracks. A lot of us were forced into isolation, people lost jobs, families were forced apart and people lost jobs. As a team, we knew that we had an arsenal of great coaches, and the ability to give back.
We are so proud to share another snippet from our girls from the Kizlar Sahada Project in Turkey. We trained and coached a group of amazing girls that were part of a local soccer team.
Here is one of the testimonials for one of the girls we coached.
Our coaches focused on:
- Building their confidence
- Empowering them for the future
- Teaching them how to curate goals for themselves
- Creating a positive environment for them to truly be themselves
We are so proud and humbled to be a part of their journey.
What do you do to give back to your community? Is there any way you think we can help. Leave us a comment or email us at email@example.com to share or learn more about these programs. We would love to hear from you.
What is leadership and coaching? Are they two separate entities or can they co-exist together? Traditionally, we think of leadership and coaching in the world of work as separate practices.
But the world has changed a lot and in the last few years and coaching has become one of the most important leadership practices.
The Main Reasons Why Coaching Has Become Such An Important Leadership Practice Are:
Coaching is a thought-provoking communication practice. When managers integrate coaching into their habitual management style they contact their inner power and find the courage to share this power with the outside world. What else?
If you are a manager or a business owner who is authentically interested in integrating coaching into your daily management practice, you might want to check out our ICF-certified coaching programs.
Our 3-month Fast Track Core Foundations ICF Certification program (Module 1-5) will help you to learn many creative ways of transforming your innate strengths into a powerful leadership practice that will allow you to create impact and be the change you want to see in your preferred audience.
Our 3-month Business Coaching ICF Certification Program will help you to understand a macro perspective of strategic business leadership and empower yourself from within by taking ownership of your personal business success story.
Whether you choose one course or the other, both pathways will ignite your inherent leadership capacity in a fulfilling way.
Are you interested in becoming a coach? Have you always asked yourself how do coaches make money? There are tonnes of resources out there teaching you how to start your online coaching business, but how many of them actually talk about the mistakes that you should avoid making when starting your online coaching business?
So, that's what we're doing today -- let's look at some of the top 5 mistakes you should avoid when starting your online coaching business. This list was curated by our team of coaches that have been in the industry for over 10 years, let our mistakes be your lessons.
Just because your business is now online, doesn't mean that it's not going to take off immediately and everyone is going to be able to see it. Being able to put together a website doesn't just take time and effort from a technical standpoint but you also need to know a few things before jumping in:
All these questions need answers and if you don't have them -- you have an unfinished product. This is why I strongly suggest you take the time to truly understand what it is you are trying to sell as a coach and grow from there. Understand that work is going to be needed and a lot of it is going to be extremely hard work. But, as a coach myself, I can very easily say that it's extremely fulfilling.
Yes, you can become a coach without getting certified but ICF has done multiple surveys and over 70% of people prefer to be coached by someone who is certified. Certification gets you much further because people trust you more now. They know that you were willing to put in the effort and the time to become a certified coach.
They also know that it isn't cheap to become a coach. This just shows potential clients your dedication and they will be able to trust you a lot more.
At the end of the day, knowing what your product is and how you are going to sell your coaching skills is one part of the equation. The other part is sometimes people make the mistake of spending too much money setting all of that up. You don't need an amazing website with 5 funnels and 20 drip emails.
All you need is a simple website that showcases yourself, your story, the types of coaching sessions available, and your contact details. There's no need to go crazy at the start.
Starting a business cost money, there is no way around it. But, we would also suggest always have a set budget that you are willing to spend to ensure that you know what your limits are. Sometimes people spend way too much money on something that they don't need and then they realize that they could have spent that money doing something completely different instead.
Running a business isn't easy -- especially when it's something new like coaching. A lot of people are learning from scratch when it comes to the world of coaching. And sometimes they trust the wrong people and with that causes a lot of issues. Because bad advice can cause you to stray from what is truly important. So, always focus on finding the right mentors for you as well.
There you have it! Our top 5 mistakes that you should avoid when starting your own coaching business. If you are looking to get certified, please check out our program page to learn more about our next intakes. We can't wait to see you.
New Year's Resolutions is something that everyone gets on when the new year comes around. People are ready to end the year and look forward to the new year. With each new year comes a promise of growth, change, and new experiences.
It's no surprise why New Year's Resolutions are a thing that a lot of people get into during the new year. It gives people a sense of rebirth and that now they have this new chapter to replace the old one that probably did not go so well.
This annual ritual cultivates hope for what there is to come and what we want to create. It gives us a sense of optimism and control over our life. However, a lot of these resolutions don't get executed in the end.
Whatever your resolutions are, they are on your list because they are important to you.
Research tells us that only 70% of change initiatives are successful. The majority of change management initiatives are not accomplished because most people are not aware that our brain does not like change and it is not good at managing it. Our brain is actually designed to resist change and it perceives change as a source of threat to our survival.
FLOW Coaches are trained with certain coaching skills to impart effective change management and they learn a special coaching formula to support their clients in managing successful and meaningful change in their personal and professional lives.
This formula is called the Four Steps Coaching Formula of Change Management.
Applying the steps of this formula helps our brain to shift its focus from perceiving it as a threat to understanding it as an improvement or opportunity that comes with change. Therefore, the brain can be trained to cooperate with us instead of resisting change.
Here is our Four Steps Coaching Formula to Change Management that will help you accomplish your New Year’s resolutions. Each step requires you to ask yourself powerful coaching questions and answer them with special attention.
The first step of the formula is to start describing what makes you unhappy or uncomfortable. Our survival brain tries to move away from pain or discomfort. By acknowledging our pain points, we are helping our brain take the first step in controlling the negativity and thus, its consequences.
The second step is to ask yourself what do you want to cultivate. If you were able to move away from what gives you pain or discomfort, what would you like to create instead? When you describe your vision, think about it in terms of being, having, and doing so that it is sustainable for you.
Who would you like to become in your vision?
What skills, resources, knowledge, and experiences do you want to gain? What would you like to do about it? When you are answering these questions, clearly visualize your answers. This will help your brain build the connections between your lower systems and upper cortex.
This third step of the change formula is about describing the steps you need to take towards making the change real in your daily life. What are some action steps that you can take every day? As we always keep repeating at FLOW, “While praying move your feet.” What will your first step be?
Step 4: Be resilient
The last step is about taking ownership and accountability for your process. This requires you to build resiliency and tenacity in making change, including appreciating every win and being patient with the process. Don’t wait until the end to acknowledge achievement, but rather appreciate the small steps and wins along the way.
If you apply these four steps together, your brain will cooperate with you in managing the change, and you will overcome your inner resistance to change.
Imagine… while you practise these steps, at the end of the next year, you will look back and remember today as the first day of new habits… new beginnings… and positive change.
It's been over 12 days since the Biden-Harris team took over the Oval Office. One word specifically stayed with me from President Biden’s inauguration speech. He said America is a country of possibilities. I am impressed by this subtle message - almost sending his citizens a subconscious signal to relax as what loads our brain stress is having a sense of being stuck. What relaxes our brain is knowing that we have choices… having possibilities.
Thinking about possibilities is a function of our creative brain. The part of our brain that is responsible for imagination, visualization, and scenario creation.
There are people that are born with a specific temperament inclined towards possibility thinking. For others, it is a function either learned or not. So many people are unable to generate possibilities and therefore feel stuck and stressed. The stress response that our brain gives to certain stimuli is more of a survival response - which means that our brain produces stress to protect us from threats so that we survive.
The dilemma is that chronic activation of stress response produces further stress and causes illness. Illnesses such as headaches, migraines, stomach or digestive problems or some mental health challenges such as anxiety, burnout, depression.
The good news is that possibility thinking is a way to combat unnecessary stress responses and it can be learned. How?
First of all, you need to learn to relax your brain. Guided meditation, making art, walking in nature, exercise and visualization are some methods that are scientifically proven to work for reducing stress and relaxing our physiology. Once you get to relax a bit, you can start to teach your brain to learn possibility thinking by asking these simple series of questions:
These questions help us to tap into the unconscious system of our creative brain. If you add visualization to these questions and repeat them for at least a month, then you will start to experience a shift in your habitual mind.
You will notice that your brain starts to generate possibilities more than before.
You will notice that your brain is not as wired as before about problem orientation.
You will experience less stress, more relaxation.
Regardless of what has happened, stress is a huge factor in a lot of issues in all of us today. This is why I truly believe that meditation and taking some time for yourself is extremely important especially during stressful times like the past few months.
Do you meditate? If not meditation, what do you do to relax? I would love to know more!
Having a Growth Mindset helps the person to become successful. This growth mindset allows the client to focus on the growth of themselves rather than what might hold them back. They will choose to see the ways to grow and evolve rather than to sit still and wait for things to change.
The coach is responsible to help the person to wire her/his brain to have a growth mindset vs fixed mindset. A growth mindset has future orientation and helps the person to focus on progress. For that, one needs to set a meaningful vision and strategies to help to succeed that vision.
The most fundamental outcome of the Flow Coaching process is the client's establishment of short-term and long-term visions. In order for the person to accomplish this vision, the coach aids the person in setting efficient and meaningful goals. Another important outcome of the coaching process is the person's increased focus on the goals. With the help of the FLOW Coach, the person can better focus on accomplishing their vision.
The very basic elements of the FLOW Coaching Process that help to build Growth Mindset:
The coach encourages the client to discover and express what he/she wants at the end of the coaching process. Sometimes, the time period of accomplishing the vision may inherently be longer than the coaching process and it is especially important to clarify this when setting the success criteria.
In each meeting, on the path to the vision that the client might have, the coach encourages the client to define his/her goals of the meeting. This could be done with a very simple question like "according to you, what is the best outcome of this meeting?".
If the person is not sufficiently clear, a sequence of questions may also be used. The goal of the meeting is also referred to as the contract of the meeting. The clarification of the contract has critical importance in order for the process of the meeting to be focused.
In accordance with the established vision and goals, the coach supports the person in planning in the most efficient way, as well as creating alternatives and solutions.
As part of the plan, it is also important that implementation is successful. While applying this, the coach supports the person in focusing on inner motivation and commitment to the process, against the challenges the person may face and unexpected situations.
The coach's job is to ensure that the person uses his/her creativity in order to develop alternative solution scenarios.
In order to ensure development, you need to make a move. Like the Zen master says: the principle "Take a step while praying” is meaningful. Hence, in order for our intentions to be reciprocated in our lives, we define action steps at the end of each meeting.
Since FLOW coaching is a growth model, it is important that growth is spread throughout the process in order for it to be realized. The coach should bring up this topic and ensure that the client thinks about his/her commitment and sustainability to the goals of the process that he/she has defined.
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FLOW Coaching Methodology and Curriculum has its foundation focused majorly on the science of Positive Psychology and the FLOW model. This includes solution-focused psychology and brain science alongside creative therapies such as Expressive Arts Therapy. With most of our focuses rooted in science, we take our curriculums very seriously as we believe that when coaching - you need to coach the whole person, and the best way to do that is to fully understand how the person works.
Positive Psychology is a framework for understanding happiness in everyday life. The history of Positive Psychology has its roots tracing back to the early 1900s, in an address to the American Psychological Association where William James challenged his peers to question why some people live fully engaged lives and others don’t.
However, it wasn’t until 1998 that Positive Psychology became an actual scientific area of study. Now considered the founding father of positive psychology, Martin Seligman clearly drew a line between the disease model of early psychologists and the positive model we understand today. For years, traditional psychology had further studied the human psyche and classified groups of behaviors and attitudes into illnesses, diseases, or disorders.
Unlike traditional psychology, Positive Psychology shifted the focus to “what works” “what can work better” instead of “what goes wrong” or “what’s broken.” Christopher Peterson, a co-author with Seligman and professor at the University of Michigan, defined three pillars of Positive Psychology as
I also created a video that is related to these 3 main pillars and why we chose it to be part of our curriculum. As coaches, I believe that our purpose is to become change-makers for the people around us. We have the responsibility to bring about change and also to aid people in their journey through change.
Watch the video here:
There is a lot of fear and resistance surrounding change but as coaches, we know that true growth only happens when change is welcomed. The 3 pillars of positive psychology help not just our clients but also us to be content with our past, be happy with the present, and to also be optimistic for the future.
Through FLOW Coaching Certification programs, our students gain a thorough understanding to build a practice to coach through these three pillars. A Flow Coach helps their clients to perceive their past as a resource to learn from while co-creating their desired future with grounded optimism where the flow is abundant in many aspects of their lives mentally, emotionally, relationally, spiritually, culturally, and lastly spiritually.